Managed Perfection

“Tell the truth, to everyone about everything, then live your truth, in every moment and in every way, and you will be happy forever in your heart, for truth makes the spirit soar, truth sets the mind free, truth opens the heart, and truth ignites the passion and releases the love of the soul” ---from Happier than God by Neale Donald Walsch


In her delightful novel, “Keep Your Mouth Shut and Wear Beige,” Kathleen Gilles Seidel tells the story of a woman coping with divorce, her son’s upcoming wedding and her ex-husband’s significant other. To Darcy, our heroine, the SO seems…well…perfect. She runs her own business, selling products and services meant to make life so much better, if not downright perfect. Darcy finds herself just a tad addicted to the SO’s blog, titled Managed Perfection, but the more she gets to know the SO, the more she realizes the SO’s life isn’t really that perfect, after all.

I thoroughly enjoyed the story. Seidel is a wonderful writer. I’ve been a fan of hers for years. She has the ability to add just the right touch of humor to life’s more serious moments, and her characters are real human beings, dealing with real problems in very real, and not necessarily saintly, ways.

I also ran smack into myself on the pages of “Keep Your Mouth Shut.” I, too, had been just a tad addicted to a blog intended, first and foremost, to sell the author’s services, and for a time, like Darcy, I believed her life was just as perfect as her blog entries made it seem.

Eventually, I realized that, of course, her life had to seem perfect. She had to sell herself first if she wanted to sell her services, and how better to do that than to hold herself up as the perfect example of how beneficial her services could be? Take one of my classes and add more focus to your life…just like I’ve done. Attend one of my events and network with important people…just like I’ve done. Sign up for 12 months of one-on-one sessions, and a year from now, you will have also tapped into your inner genius.

It’s a given that fantasy sells better than reality…the fantasy of finally getting a good night’s sleep if you buy that $$$ mattress; the fantasy that providing a favored brand of beer will make you the life of the party. Those fantasies I've recognized immediately.

Took me a little longer, but with the help of a good book (and, yes, a therapist who is extremely astute), I’ve seen my nemesis blog for the fantasy it is, as well. Neither good nor bad, it is a carefully edited, decidedly upbeat slice of someone’s life intended to get folks to pay good money for the services she provides. It is a part of her story, but not the ups-and-downs, warts-and-all story that makes up the real life we all live, no matter what we’d like other people to believe.